As a parent, comedian Russell Brand says he’s “romantic, reflective.” His wife, Laura Gallacher, is “bureaucratic, managerial.”
He laid it all out in a recent interview with The Sunday Times Magazine.
I’m OK with that. Parents have different styles and skills.
My husband, the drill-sergeant sports-writer dad, is the household cook and grocery shopper.
I, the wife who’s a borderline free-range parent, clean and handle car repairs.
Parents should divide the childcare duties according to the things at which they naturally excel. My husband enjoys cooking, so he makes meals. I’m a mechanic’s daughter, so, naturally, I speak gear-head.
Parenting: ‘Really hard’ and ‘so exhausting’
I’m even kind of OK with the “Forgetting Sarah Marshall” star’s rambling soliloquy about how he’s the sensitive one and his wife is the take-charge parent. I mean, they’re not the only couple where that’s true.
And parenting is hard and it is exhausting. He’s not covering any new ground there, although he is making a lunch out of actually saying it.
“I’m still of a romantic and reflective and, possibly, to give it its proper name, a religious disposition. That’s my worldview. That’s not necessarily what you want organizing pragmatic, bureaucratic, managerial stuff.
“It turns out that (Laura) is extremely well-versed in the nuances and complexities of child-rearing. Me, I am dedicated to it, devoted to it, but I am still surprised when it’s like, ‘Oh my God, this is f—ing really hard and it’s so exhausting.’ The younger one, I just feel inept so quickly, like with the crying.”
Brand is unwilling, not unable
But here’s where Brand, 43, needs to shut up and grow up.
Brand admits to feeling “inept” when looking after his youngest child. Hey, we’ve all felt inadequate as parents. It comes with the job.
But using that as an excuse to not provide basic childcare like feeding them?
He said his wife is aware of his ineptitude and doesn’t leave his children – Mabel, 2, and Peggy, 6 months – in his care for a full day. “She respects and cares for them too much.”
Brand said whereas he is “very, very focused on the mystical connotations of Mabel’s and Peggy’s beauty and grace,” he’s “not so good on the nappies and making sure that they eat food.”
What in the actual heck?
It’s not that Brand is unable to help with the childcare basics, it’s that he’s unwilling. This has nothing to do with a particular parenting style or that he’s an artist. And it’s not cute.
I do recall for a very brief time when our girls were young, my husband would whine “You’re-better-at-it” when it came to getting the kids to bed at night or other essential parenting duties. Or, in Brand’s case, eating food.
I told my husband it was a sign he needed more practice. He eventually learned the parenting skills he needed. He’s a wonderful father and a positive male role model for our three daughters.
Brand needs more supervised practice so he can learn the skills needed to keep his kids alive for a 24-hour cycle.
Other people think so, too
- Liev Schreiber says he will never be cool to his kids, ‘it’s impossible’
- ‘It’s so hard:’ Kate Middleton knows the parenting struggle is real
- Khloe Kardashian says motherhood “complete bliss, no matter what”
- ‘Bodyguard’ star Richard Madden thanks dad for saving him from awkward moment at Golden Globes